Save the boy is not alarmist
China Education —- A reporter asked Gao Yun Yan
boy crisis is a comprehensive
Reporter: Are you concerned about the boy why the issue of education? .
Sun Yunxiao wrote: In fact, “save the boy,” this issue, I began in 1986, thinking. At that time I’m still young newspaper reporter in China, an interview with the boy felt very vulnerable, feminine bias, are also vulnerable. In 1986, I published a 10 000 word reportage, called “” scary, Captain “grievances” about a boy at school hurt the story. This is a fifth-grade elementary school in Henan boys Huangchuan story is completely true. However, I had only seen the surface of things, on what would also like to clear things behind.
The summer of 2005, the new president of the East Yangzhou Mr Yu asked me to discuss the issue of China’s summer camp, and to have a general counselor Young Pioneers in Shanghai Shen Gong Ling, her boy on the issue. I was surprised, she is also concerned about this issue. She said that many boys jointly write to her, saying that they were oppressed in the school, the teacher does not care about them, they are not status, is very unfair. Shen Gong Ling says that the United States there have been boys crisis, the United States Government to “save the boy.” I was very popular with shock, I think the Chinese boys may be more serious, less because of China’s education development for boys, school pressure, the pressure to learn from their parents spoiled and very serious. These two factors on the growth of very bad boys. So, I invite PhD in psychology, with two children a year and a half doing research, “to save the boy,” is born.
Reporter: “Save the Boys,” a book cited a lot of data to explain the current situation of the domestic education of boys.
Sun Yunxiao wrote: We have done a lot of domestic and foreign literature, but also a lot of data analysis, found the boy under the crisis, which we feel is consistent with the original. Many studies show that boys than girls retardation, this “backward” was originally temporary, do not be too worried. However, in reality, we not only ignore the “retardation,” the difference, and now runs the education model for boys constitute a greater harm. Boy Crisis, the crisis in education, save the key is to save the boy’s education.
Currently most schools emphasize language, mathematics, foreign languages, including Chinese and English has been the strength of girls and boys in the past have certain advantages in math, but now the situation is that this advantage has disappeared. While the top students can not scale as a standard, but the top students decade earth-shaking changes have taken place, the way the proportion of boys landslide, from 66.2% in 1999 to 39.7% slide in 2008 for girls increased from 33.8% to 60.3 %, not a “scholar Lang,” the but “champion spent” a. This is from a perspective reflecting the relative progress of girls, boys began to decline.
Reporter: You mentioned the boy’s behind is temporary, then there is a chance to catch up to the. Is that true?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: In the past, people also know that boys developed later than girls, boys lag behind in primary school does not matter to middle school is like, and to the university is definitely male dominated. However, through this study, we found that the situation is not as we imagined. The results show that boys lag behind today’s start from primary school through to secondary schools and universities has been, is a comprehensive behind. For example, the national scholarship competitions as an example ,2006 – 2007 annual award-winning 50,000 college students, male and female ratio was 1:2.01 real. The core reason for this result is that the current education model and the evaluation methods and the boys learning style does not match the increase of the boy crisis, leading to the boy from school on the date of the retreat. This trend is not unique to China, but worldwide.
Reality, we find that more girls complete the master’s desire to graduate school because the failure of boys, are more likely to find a job, are more likely to marital instability, leading to a series of social problems.
Reporter: Many teachers privately regular topic of conversation is a class which the boy and “pull” results, and parents are also learning situation for the boys are very anxious.
Sun Yunxiao wrote: I think, a good teacher should be a character of the first division, followed by the knowledge division. Personality of the teacher to do, not only to pursue the first goal of the child’s academic performance, but pay more attention to improving the child’s personality, the main bear with five indicators: self-confident, caring, responsible, self-management, ability to resist setback . This is the basic standard of healthy personality. Good teachers should be particularly concerned about the quality of their children these healthy personality formation. Study found that, for some children, you “beaten to death,” he results are not good, because the level of academic achievement and intelligence, but these kids can do Personality. This should be the goal of teachers is also a principle of education.
And I think teachers should explore is the current “gender education” and “individualized” combination of the child may develop the potential developed, rather than the child can not develop things being forced to squeeze out, it can only be harm the child. Differences between men and women are not terrible, horrible teachers or parents to the boy as being backward, and even defined as poor students, stupid, problem students, this is the beginning of a disaster.
Reporter: the negative evaluation of the school for boys too much, so many boys lack confidence in themselves.
Sun Yunxiao wrote: Yes. Originally, “the boy behind” is a characteristic of boys, the results you “behind the boy,” as the boy’s a drawback, as a problem, even as sin, which may endanger the boy’s life, which in psychology is called labeling effect. In childhood, such misleading judgments are terrible, if you do not question the teacher said, you have great potential, you’re hard, you can learn, which is quite different. Word may decide the fate of the child.
Bi Shumin mentioned her heart in the primary school were injuries, a few years, “childhood wounds” still “braved the smoke.” Had, in her fifth grade when a singing teacher said she sang it very hard, and said many wounded her pride if she never dared to sing, sting never can erase the memory. Therefore, I would like to tell teachers that academic performance should be tolerant of the boys, give them more time to grow.
to the boy the best gift – at school year
Reporter: Now many schools are small girls, good students and teachers seem to prefer girls.
Sun Yunxiao wrote: because the present mode of education and evaluation of tests to see the girl parties will be better than the performance of boys. Schools on the one hand ignore the “retardation” the difference; on the other hand ignored the boys and girls of different cognitive models. For example, more suitable for girls education in the language of communication, reading, emotional education; boys for sport, action, hands, and calculated the body involved in education, and more. The current education on communication-oriented language, emphasizing speaking, back, say, these are the strengths of girls and boys in class listening to the 10-to-minute, probably hears not, so from a school Boy it is easy to fall behind. Moreover, the current primary and secondary schools, including kindergartens, are in the pursuit of “quiet culture,” school special emphasis on quiet, walking softly, do not, run, these demands on the boys, are not easy to adapt.
Reporter: In the past schools have emphasized the quiet, emphasizing order and discipline.
Sun Yunxiao wrote: I think the emphasis now more than ever. Why, afraid of something happening, fear of chaos. “Static culture” has become a popular pursuit of many schools and even kindergartens are quiet.
I think this is a very violation of the requirements of children in nature, completely ignores the characteristics of children. Such a request, on the boy’s injuries is enormous, from the physical point of view the following three reasons:
First, the hormone testosterone, the two hemispheres of the brain cause the boy can not effectively communicate the advantages of focus boy left brain, while the girls, the two hemispheres of the brain can be smooth and harmonious exchange, so the language of girls than boys, the absolute advantage. Boys like hormone testosterone leads to hyperactivity, risk-taking, competition, and this is the boy’s features.
Second, the role of serotonin is one of self-control, people become irrational. Serotonin than girls, boys, reflected in the results is that girls more rational, control and strong, less mistakes. Instead, the boy’s self-control is often poor, good adventures, easy impulsive.
Thirdly, the amygdala (the amygdala) can physically make people act like Samaritan, to come forward, may also be involved in violent and dangerous acts quickly. Tonsil boys than girls, so boys inherently difficult problem.
Boy is actually a vulnerable group, died at birth a lot more opportunities than girls, girls, growth after birth than later, so there are all kinds of obstacles is far greater than that of girls boys, such as ADHD, the highest proportion of boys and girls can to 9:1.
Physiological differences between boys and girls is a natural phenomenon, inevitable. Therefore, I strongly recommend to the boy at school for one year. Now the United States, Australia, the measures taken is the best gift to the boy – let him learn at one year.
Reporter: Let the boy at school for one year, you can ease the “boy crisis”?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: evening school year, parents can do is to ease the boy crisis in one of the most easy to do. However, I think it can not fundamentally solve the problem, the key to establish the “gender education” principle. Individualized and gender education to both, this is an important principle of education. Upheld the principles of education, the chance of achieving people-oriented science education. Our teaching model including the assessment system, should take into account the “gender education” requirement would be reasonable.
Many hospitals now a phenomenon, in August will usher in a caesarean section peak, because mothers like to catch September 1 children, the child can learn the morning. This shows that many parents do not attach importance to the fact that boys developed later. These parents do not know, 97% is not exceptional for the boys, it could mean disaster morning school. Because the 5-year-old boy brain levels of language development, only about 3 years old and half girls, boys go to school often means disaster ahead of the start.
There is also a problem, many parents feel their child is exceptional children, because children rich source of information, vision is also wide, in the parents, becomes the extraordinary. Parental expectations for their children eager, in which case the vast majority of parents are not satisfied with the boy, the parents of some of the requirements is difficult to do many boys, which resulted in injuries to the boy.
“boy crisis” of the whole society reflect
Reporter: “Save the Boys,” the book have any reaction out of it?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: This book came out, and aroused a strong reaction, many people say that if the earlier book, will not let my son so am learning; also stated that after seeing this book to understand the past, wronged his son, the parents are wrong, the child’s right. There are many mom bought a book given to the child’s father, because in the book which also refers to the father should bear the unique responsibility of educating boys, because the lack of parent education is also the “boy crisis” of the major reasons.
Reporter: This response is in your expected?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: before publication, I have thought of this book will lead to larger social repercussions, but the response is so extensive that I did not expect. Impressed me most is that many boys, parents eager to read, have a comment, and a message in my blog, that a lot of heartfelt words.
Reporter: The book came out, there is no one that you exaggerating?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: Yes, there is a voice that I was alarmist, saying “Save the Boys” is a pseudo-problem does not exist. Others say, you look inside the Politburo Standing Committee with woman? Shenzhou spacecraft, astronauts have woman? Some also said that now almost all of the positions are male, you have to “save the boy,” is simply nonsense. Some people say that you are macho, why only “to save the boy,” the status of women is not more important? Girls are more worth saving.
Reporter: how you answer this question?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: I said, I am in favor of equality, I very much hope that the development of better girls. I think that is not a problem now the rise of girls, this is a good sign, the problem is the boy losing ground. Losing ground to girls boys no good to the country no good to the children themselves did not benefit.
Needless to say, China’s key positions are still male dominated. However, I think this is a forthcoming history of the past, this is a changing reality. Can be said that the current “male dominated” is a historical result, and now the foundation has been shaken, the reality today is pregnant with a completely different tomorrow.
Q: Your book aroused wide concern in education circles it? Teachers to review?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: In education circles, teachers are also very strong response. Hakusan City, Secretary for Education, Jilin Yan Qiu Ji, after reading this book specifically written comments, he said, the book is too shocked to see that this book is for the national future storage masculinity. There are many readers and experts on the message in my blog and comment, on many feeling that the boy should be alert to this situation, we must gradually be changed.
Reporter: There are no teachers to reflect on their teaching methods?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: Yes, but many. Many teachers in the reflection that the past neglect of gender differences in boys and girls, boys did not fair. Also proposed the establishment of a Research teacher, specializing in “Save the boys” how to explore practice in education and how this book’s ideas into educational practice, “gender education” how to reflect in education.
Reporter: Some media “boy crisis” in a survey, like parents and teachers on this issue due to not the same. Parents think that school education does not match the result, “boy crisis” is a family of teachers think that boys are too spoiled, resulting in a comprehensive behind the boy.
Sun Yunxiao wrote: In this issue of attribution is very different. We study a pattern, the more problem families, the more likely to attribute to the outside, the more a high level of parents, the more likely to return in the responsibility of educating themselves. Is precisely because of this difference in level of awareness, leading to different levels of family education. For example, we do youth internet addiction research found that children with addiction, and parents that school education is not good, social good, is not good Internet cafe management, poor school management. The child has no addiction, and parents often feel that their kids a great relationship problems and family education.
Father of missing boy teach life “calcium deficiency”
Reporter: Family in the “boy crisis” to bear on what responsibility?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: Actually, the reason for this is that many “boy crisis” is absolutely not a single cause. Education from the family point of view, the biggest problem is spoiled. An entrepreneur for many years in studying abroad, told me that the child’s parents is to raise boys as girls, so that China lost a generation of men. This saying is much more “ruthless” ah, but sharply. He said the boy got to keep him suffer, to make sure he rehearsals, he has a sense of responsibility. Students who engaged in job search advice of experts, said he found at work everywhere good girl, good little boys. At present, China is an important issue of family education is doting on the boy, little boys suffer now and enjoy too much, meet many, too little control. Such a state, the boy will be problems.
Reporter: You made the parent to teach life-long absence makes the boy, “calcium”, why?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: On the Absence of the Father taught us a lot of research, there are sufficient data. 4 middle school students in Japan and South Korea U.S. research shows that even in normal families, the father has been away from the child’s emotional center, high school students will be selected as the sixth father talk to the object, behind same-sex friend, mother, sex friends, brothers and sisters, friends and even after.
Studies show that parent education is irreplaceable boy growing security problems caused by lack of parent education very serious. One example from the biosphere, national parks in South Africa, elephant populations have been found to be a very mild group, but the recent discovery of small companies as full of violent, cranky, attack other animals, domesticated members never see too small public so crazy as barbaric, how is it? Expert study discovered that because of the local elephant breeding too fast, people will bring in many adult male elephants killed, resulting in little elephant lost discipline, because you can teach the public as the presence of these small companies like, keep it discipline. In social life, because of lack of serious violent father to teach the children of the same list goes on.
In theory, human development has two directions, first, intimacy, and the second is independence. Education function of the natural mother is to develop children’s intimacy; father’s education was mainly cultivate children’s independence, responsibility, binding. Father to help boys to control their emotions play a key role, if not his father’s guidance and leadership, the boy suffered setbacks often leads to acts of violence and other antisocial behavior. Therefore, the “boy crisis” is also the issue of parent education.
Reporter: Are you parents of such children have any suggestions?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: When parents find that your son behind, do not be anxious, you want to see this may be a characteristic of his, not a disadvantage, and encourage some to wait for him, because you can not let the child do what he can not do the things. Children love to learn is more important than learn better. Imperfect child’s mind, this is a development issue, it is necessary to wait for the problem. Mr. Lv Shuxiang said, education is not the industry, but more like agriculture, the attitude towards children should be treated as a farmer plants the same respect for their growth pattern. Therefore, the simple and effective method is to let the boy at school for one year.
boys education and sports education will be combined
Reporter: You made “no movement there would be no boys,” called the boy should combine education and sports education. Why?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: Sports are boys by nature. Boy male hormone the body needs more exercise to the boy, exercise can also stimulate the boy’s brain and physical activity and better development. Can be said that there is no movement there is no boy. According to the study, boys at least 4 times a day or more extra-curricular activities, while in reality many of the school day with an event can not meet the child. Of course, some boys are somewhat quiet, it seems not interested in sports. But even so more boys than girls, need exercise.
Also, I think that movement is the socialization of children in the most effective way. We can not just sports people as simple-minded, well-developed limbs, the sense of responsibility in fact produce games, rules, awareness, cooperation, awareness and sense of competition, these are very important to the quality of today’s society. We are in the moral education of children and personality cultivation time, key indicators can be achieved in the movement. Children are growing up in the experience, and exercise the most direct and just give them the full experience. So I think education should be special attention to the role of sport, especially for boys.
Reporter: lack of exercise, the boys not only physical deterioration, and more easily prone to violence.
Sun Yunxiao wrote: A while ago, the education sector are concerned about a secondary school in Hunan stampede. For this event there are many kinds of explanations are reasonable. And I think that the event somehow reflect the “boy crisis” broke out. Just think, children on the day of class plus going to night classes, the boys all day may not have much activity, so down, like going to night classes just like a volcanic eruption, Pinmingdiwang external impulse, no matter regardless, can not control.
I had 38 years of children’s education and research, is almost often hear the stampede incident. I think this and the “boy crisis” in the. If during the day so that children have enough exercise, their energy release, and may not be such a big outbreak of destructive energy. School education have a safety valve, the pressure for students to be properly released, it can not explode. Only allow them to learn, to their pressure, they are particularly vulnerable to the outbreak. Therefore, “to save the boy,” is necessary to “save education” is even more important.
Reporter: Parents also need to be awareness, one can not think of sending their children to learn the class.
Sun Yunxiao wrote: There is a mother introduced an experience: every day after school, not take home his son directly, but first take him out to exercise for an hour, or run or jump, and then go home. This effect is very attentive children go home after work, academic performance has gradually better. We now have a very bad phenomenon is that children in schools lack of exercise, go home and not permitted to go out. Without movement, the energy of a child not to play, mind and body naturally lazy, read the book up and not the spirit, the word sure to write more write more slowly. So, for the boy’s movement, family can be the first action.
Reporter: Are you in the process of writing a book have been some confusion, for example, in the end is which factors most influence on the boys?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: This is a comprehensive issue, the board can not hit the one side, the first is not fair, the second unscientific. Say “save the boy” must be the following aspects: First, do not let the boy learn the morning; Second is to strengthen parent education; third is to strengthen the movement.
In addition, the school teaching model to change. Although we know that changing the education system and teaching very difficult, but as long as teachers have the education and awareness may be hope. I have put forward a proposal, the proportion of primary school classes of men and women cadres should be at least maintained at 4:6, girls, early development, management capacity, accounting for 6 boys, 4. Class team of cadres of electoral rules can guarantee if not less than 4:6, which can safeguard the rights of boys. This is implemented as a rule.
Reporter: You have been very stressed the need to train the boy’s responsibility.
Sun Yunxiao wrote: What is man? Not to say that man is the boy was tall and mighty. The essential characteristics of the boys should be a sense of responsibility, this responsibility is the courage to act, when in a crisis to make sacrifices. Sinking of the Titanic is a vivid example, when the majority are women and children alive, men sacrificed a lot. Why have the results? This is reflected in the disaster of a human civilization. If a scene change, whether that of a man to survive their first, big man strength, first to the women and children Xiandao the sea, and then beat up a man himself, then what is the result? The result of a very dark, very foolish results. Therefore, men should assume more responsibility, not only human civilization, is human intelligence. So, no obligation no man; no man, not the future of the nation.
Reporter: You mentioned in the books of many countries in the last century 90′s already have to “save the boy” program. Compared with them, our country should do in this area?
Sun Yunxiao wrote: I think that China now has a good background, and implementing the people-centered scientific concept of development, in the context of this discussion “to save the boy,” this is a very meaningful. I have said before, all the children’s education mission can be summed up in 12 words: discovery of children, the liberation of children, the development of children. Our children have to re-understanding, to keep the discovery, recognition of significant gender differences. We are aware of the “boy crisis” is a global phenomenon, but should realize that China is a more prominent phenomenon. The reason is that excessive pressure on students, education mode, taking over the family’s indulgence and restraint, is not conducive to growing boys. We must act now!
(2010 – 3 – 11 China Education Daily Weekly reading excerpts, full text of China Education News)
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