Do not be afraid of children suffer
Sun Yunxiao wrote to the owner, said: Honourable friends, good evening! Welcome to our Sun Yunxiao wrote chat room, we continue to discuss topics of interest to education.
cqwzpy on Sun Yunxiao wrote wrote: My friend’s kids are very good, but in a small courtyard playing companions were excluded? Why is this?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on cqwzpy said: I do not know what you said is very good is what is the achievement it? Still have some expertise? But these are not peer interaction skills, every child needs to learn to respect others, learn to cooperate, learn to get along with others, this is the most important contemporary people the quality of one.
cqwzpy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: good embodied in the study, with expertise, good moral character, but also interacting with others, respect for others, but also with others. She was singled out in the small courtyard, people really do not understand. The other 78 partners have formed a small circle. Many close friends have been invisible daughter of exclusion. A friend complained to me, How can I do to him to Return Weapon?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on cqwzpy said: the conflict between children is subtle and complex, such as good child may have been because she was too top-notch and peer out, and also possibly because of high gas Aung Toe excellent and lose the friendship, so Children’s issues to be cautious due.
cqwzpy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: friends daughter is not proud, not because good and cocky.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on cqwzpy wrote: To analyze, your friend’s child has a friend? Relations with all companions are not too good, or just not good with these partnerships? This may identify the crux of the problem.
cqwzpy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: there are a lot of friends in school, same class have about 10 other classes there, other grades also. Relatives and friends have a few partners, friends daughter and my daughter are best friends.
yanglwx on cqwzpy wrote: on your child in a small courtyard by the exclusion of seven or eight small partners, I venture to say that is not your child will not be the game that several small partners, or play with everyone when want to lead others, careful not to ask her to play, how to say that several partners.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on yanglwx wrote: Your analysis may be justified, in fact, the obstacles encountered in contacts of children, often some very specific issues, which need to give them some skills, and resolve obstacles to the child. Please keep in mind in dealing with this type of conflict, parents not acting on their behalf, and to guide the children to experience.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: Professor Xie Xie sure, I remember Zhouzhou handicapped Zhouzhou parents to see plays with other partners, by bullying, very distressed, but they know that the children must be social, consistently let him go and partners Play, Zhouzhou success, with parents willing to have a great relationship, I agree with your point of view for children to experience.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on yanglwx said: Yes, do not be afraid of their children lose out, because the ups and downs are nutrition, the only child of interaction, in particular need to learn humility, learn to cooperate, and have the ability to play.
waiguoertongjy on Sun Yunxiao wrote: “Do not lose fear of children,” That is right nice. This is the basic education of interpersonal communication.
Let children learn to work to respond to the complexity of life
cqwzpy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: She did not want to lead, not when the Children. Just want to play with them and enjoy their childhood.
yanglwx on cqwzpy said: Children have the desire to enjoy a happy childhood, being unable to integrate into the partner, the parents must give up their children play with age and may play is to learn the skills learned on the integration of partners in the natural.
cqwzpy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: the group of partners, a partner center. Lived in a school playground side of the girl, after reading the sixth grade, her father taught in the schools. Friends, daughters, and other partners in the close, they just like the birds that 78 partners as a group to fly away. How strange!
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: to find her daughter’s other partners, quietly ask the cause, helping children to solve.
waiguoertongjy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: You can invite a small partner to play at home.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on cqwzpy said: Children have complex relationship between the side of the child if the moment can not be integrated into a particular group of children, may be able to find another group. In short, give the child partner, a friend. At the same time, to try to resolve obstacles to communication, when necessary, can also be communication between adults, but can not replace the acceptance among children. Different exchanges with adults, children games fun the best adhesive contacts.
cqwzpy on Sun Yunxiao wrote wrote: My friend and his daughter, for this sad, because this situation has continued for six months. But also because it is his daughter home, the only regular place to play, just about 300 meters from their house, the place is a school for adults. Friends thought I was a teacher, he can help solve. But I feel very difficult, and only ask the teacher of the Sun. Because you are children, education experts, is my idol.
cqwzpy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: SUN teachers, adult intervention necessary?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on cqwzpy said: children’s issues need to resolve with the children, this will really help the growth of children, of course, adults need to do more patient and meticulous work, this type of emotional communication between children and adults of the command is does not work.
cqwzpy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: that how to do?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on cqwzpy said: In the children’s education, also need to adopt an alternative approach, that does not work as a way to temporarily when the alternative could be another way. She temporarily unable to integrate into the community, can give her to find a new group? In short, children grow up can not wait, and it is not hard to manage, flexible response to child growth problems, but also let the child learn to deal with modifications of the complexity of life.
waiguoertongjy on cqwzpy said: It is recommended adults take a look at one side, in the end what is the reason a child can not be sociable?
cqwzpy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: a friend is also frequently observed, the problem may be out of that family on the school. His daughter reading the sixth grade, the same group of partners in the center. Her mother out back in school, friends and past friends daughter is very enthusiastic, but this half year to have changed, become more indifferent. A friend once praised her daughter, she would not ignore. Schools that may be the cause of the mother and son.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on cqwzpy said: the adult world of conflict may also lead to the gap between children, this is really a tragedy. Therefore, the need for adults to change the concept, do not let the children involved in conflicts between adults, because that every child is a kind of injury.
waiguoertongjy on cqwzpy said: It is recommended that encourage the girl friends do not play with her, this is not her fault!
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: Professor Sun, you do not accept children partners, parents are anxious, this is the only child of abuse, only schools to create more partners.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on yanglwx wrote: I have done presentations in the Lecture Room, CCTV, subject is “child’s peer interaction”, we may be able to search the web. Schools to promote peer interaction in the area does have many advantages, we did this experiment, but the role of the family is more important.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote: I definitely have time to look at “child’s peer interaction”, good parents to guide our schools, so that the role of the family to play well, I believe, will learn a lot of knowledge and methods.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: Regardless of the education in schools are based on family education, family education is really important.
For children to create an enabling environment for the growth
leiyongmei2010 on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: my daughter was eight years old this year, ignorance, learning is also good, like Go learn very well, but the children on some issues very seriously, and sometimes insisted figure out some problems, I do not know how to guide her .
Sun Yunxiao wrote on leiyongmei2010 said: For the purists children, we need to have patience, because the child’s interest inquiry is very valuable, perhaps her study habits and culture of this exploration together, in order to find a way to explore a broad problem.
leiyongmei2010 on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: She usually is Aikan Shu, the more things look the more problems.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on leiyongmei2010 said: child Aikan Shu is a very rare advantage, the problem can be more answers from the book, parents need to do is to support and accompany and guide the children to improve the ability to think.
leiyongmei2010 on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: teachers are bored in class to ask some teachers do not want to answer the old question. Her second grade.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on leiyongmei2010 said: for such children need to guide and support her and the students to discuss such issues, the search is the answer, in search of better books, such as can hold on, this child would have a very high capacity. In other words, to give a child a way to open up a number of exploration.
leiyongmei2010 on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: she would love to see celebrity stories, volumes of Chinese and foreign volumes. I want to see some fairy tale aspects of her book she does not like to watch.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on leiyongmei2010 said: there is a difference in a child’s interest, he like to watch celebrity stories can give him. Just put it vivid and specific, so that he can understand is a good read.
leiyongmei2010 on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: The teacher said she always do when there is another problem of thinking, and she lear about it? She likes to Go.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on leiyongmei2010 said: there is a possibility, there are other possible, but some more creative thinking, problem solving performance, should be cherished.
leiyongmei2010 on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: her daughter will look something like class feel to speak slower than people thought, even the wrong words when reading she will find. What is the problem she wants, such as rice, cooked on the reasons why will become large. I was afraid of her so tired.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on leiyongmei2010 say: the child’s energy is amazing strong, if properly guided, as it will grow as small trees.
Zeng said columns on the Sun Yunxiao wrote: Hello, Sun teachers, my children started this a very sensible, school is also actively speaking, but still not high academic achievement, teacher said she did not learn something solid, but my daughters, she always said, okay, how this situation we should do.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on Zeng column wrote: First of all, study hard to be sure the child’s attitude, while it should be noted that learning is to master the scientific method, if the method does not, efforts will be much less effective.
shandongzyq on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: how to understand the child physically Zaikuzailei not afraid, can use their brains learn to fear.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on shandongzyq said: Because the child’s physical development fast, very intensive exercise, which yes they both can understand, are very needed item, Er Xue Xi is a more complex task, they may be difficult to understand, are afraid so.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote: I have twin boys, were in two classes where the teacher left work better than his brother more than my brother, my brother is always bad mood, I do not know what to say if more favorable to resolve his unhappy mood.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on yanglwx said: For the boys, then we need some more sports, sports, after learning there will be sufficient momentum. Also note that he encountered difficulties in learning how to solve the low-grade primary school students in particular need to learn methods, such as to develop good study habits is the best education.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: my twin boys Assignments must write 22 o’clock, there is no time for extracurricular reading the book, only on Saturdays or Sundays, I am anxious to read the amount is not enough.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on yanglwx said: students every day should be ten hours of sleep time, which is a prerequisite for his healthy growth. So to go to bed too late, need to consult with teachers, appropriate to reduce the burden.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: not to discuss with teachers, teachers will be more angry.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on yanglwx said: communication between teachers and parents are really worried, my experience is that first of all to respect the teachers, by way of advice for teachers to understand children’s actual situation, in short, to communicate to your child to create a favorable environment for the growth.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: winter in addition to language, mathematics, English, physics, operations the main subjects, teachers made a single piece of work, I unawares to reduce the points. Teachers do not mark the winter vacation from time to seriously work.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on yanglwx said: Understandably, many parents are helping children withstood some pressure, even the well-known writer Bi Shumin homework many times for her son because she knows can not change the teacher’s decision.
Jinshan to the Sun Yunxiao wrote that: a wide variety of courses now facing outside, most children in the Shangfudaoban, as parents do not know is that with the people? Or child to complete school work on line? You know that now appeals to students burdens, but does not report fear of their children behind. Exactly how to identify the suitability of their children on those remedial classes? We feared and Hailehaizi afraid miss the kids, please answer doubts.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on Jinshan said: experts, students generally do not need the extra tutorial classes, if the child needs to develop a specialty, select the appropriate classes are available, but the premise is to ensure that children get enough sleep and exercise, can give them some free time.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: both boys and girls, sports, and only in the children’s game of collective movement in order to have fun, have to attach importance to the school.
waiguoertongjy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: In fact, the time in the school can arrange more specialty classes so that parents can make payments, as long as quality assurance. This will no longer occupy the kids time to play the weekend.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on waiguoertongjy said: The current education sector is to limit the charges to prevent arbitrary charges to people’s lives a burden, but it was also limits the number of extra-curricular activities have fairly prominent.
waiguoertongjy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: smart teachers should learn different children have different requirements, so the child will have a sense of accomplishment.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on waiguoertongjy wrote: Exactly, the goal of quality education is to make everyone successful. I think the concept of quality education is the success of three new concepts: success is the development, success is choice, success is harmony.
Adolescent children of the strong demand for art exchanges
shandongzyq on Sun Yunxiao wrote: I am 17 years old this year family nephew, the high one, the child understand things more, observe other shortcomings and deficiencies are accurate, it will pick the wrong teacher, a quasi-one said. Can not go along with his parents. His teachers pick and choose, or even do a “hate house and Ukraine,” the extent not like the teacher, he took the course did not learn. As a parent how to do?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on shandongzyq said: adolescent children are frequently extreme, and when he find fault with a teacher when her parents to listen to, second, to guide, in particular, children should be guided to discover the advantages of teachers, and learn to respect others.
shandongzyq on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: the child’s own learning is not good, can they look down on the students learn better, this is a mentality are these?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on shandongzyq said: the problem of children not jumping to conclusions, it is best to talk with the child mind, the reasons may be beyond his expectation of adults, of course, does not rule out jealousy, confrontation and other psychological existence.
leiyongmei2010 on Sun Yunxiao wrote wrote: My daughter likes to play and the boys how to do?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on leiyongmei2010 said: This is not normal for you? Many parents are particularly worried about children and sex peer interaction, in fact, whether boy or girl, have special needs contact with the opposite sex partners experience, this is her life experience of the exchanges.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: Carnegie’s “human weakness” This book, the children look at what more appropriate time?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on yanglwx said: “The weakness of human nature,” like the book more suitable for middle school students to read, because the adolescent child interpersonal complex and relatively strong demand for communication arts, of course, adults also can be read.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote wrote: Thank you for your answer, I think the ones graduated summer so that he read, the child is now two days.
clgljq on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: Sun teacher, I have two sons, one in first grade, a second grade, should choose which extracurricular books read to them more appropriate?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on clgljq said: pupils to read more fairy tales, and some children’s songs, Deep and starting to cultivate interest in reading.
clgljq on Sun Yunxiao wrote: I am 10 years old son like to see Popular Science.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on clgljq said: Popular Science for children may be the most nutrient-rich books, in particular should be encouraged and supported. To cultivate a habit of reading Popular Science, will significantly improve children’s scientific thinking.
clgljq on Sun Yunxiao wrote: I am very happy with their original choice, let him go to the library to choose their favorite books, and now his second year, choose to learn Chinese calligraphy brush.
clgljq on Sun Yunxiao wrote: I am 8-year-old son, according to the teacher that the school very well behaved, did well, but very naughty at home, how active do not work, how is this going on.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on clgljq said: This is the psychology of children’s performance year-old child dying to teachers like yourself, will restrain the performance of their own efforts, but will return home relaxed, parents have to understand rather than blame, the key is to develop good habits.
Not suitable for boarding students
clgljq on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: Sun teacher, my two sons are at boarding school, first grade elementary school, the son, disliking school, each school sent to all major emotional, how do?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on clgljq said: This is a feature, not a weakness, 12-year-old former special needs children and their parents to establish a close emotional attachment, and this requires close and continuous communication, daily living require more common. Therefore, it is not suitable for boarding students. Of course, some families there will be some special circumstances, the child must be a host, you need to do more detailed work, such as the middle to pick one or two, reduce the child’s psychological distress.
clgljq on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: is a week to and from boarding, that is, Sunday afternoon to go to school, go home on Friday afternoon, the kids will have great psychological impact?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on clgljq said: For young children, or too long a few days. Our understanding of the psychological needs of children too are not enough, the younger the faster development, needs more prosperous, boarding is not a good way.
clgljq on Sun Yunxiao wrote wrote: For me that 8-year-old at boarding school one grade son, as the parents how to cultivate his guidance and good habits.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on clgljq said: For the year-old children to boarding schools, the most important thing is not what good training habits, but make up for lack of family communication, only established a close relationship, can we talk about cultivating good habits.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on clgljq wrote: Why should a primary school student sent to boarding school? Many parents may be stressed how their busy, no time for kids, but when you lose the intimacy and attachment between child emotion, children’s mental health and personality development may be adversely affected. Wait until the problem was found when the parents want to change too late. Because the child’s growth, there is not reversible, once lost, is irreparable.
waiguoertongjy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: Yes, ah, especially when small children need their parents. Children are a problem, then anxious too late!
Sun Yunxiao wrote on clgljq said: put a point before the age of 12, better than 12 percent after the age of inputs. 12 percent after the age of inputs, but also does not back up before the 12-year-old missing one point. Therefore, responsible parents should bring up their children themselves. This is a wise choice.
clgljq on Sun Yunxiao wrote: We are migrant workers, can not afford to buy a house, can not enter the local public schools, in order to let the children receive a good education, not the bad kind of private school kids want to go.
clgljq on Sun Yunxiao wrote wrote: Please, Sun urged to protect migrant workers to study the welfare of children.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on clgljq wrote: very understanding, “State Reform and Development Plan and long-term”, the already defined the principles of fairness and justice to education, your concerns will be resolved.
No male teachers in kindergartens and primary schools are unqualified
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: your “save the boy,” I had read in the New Year, and the first few days of the personnel work in the forum area, I suggest the next year to recruit male teachers.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote: I recommended to them to “save the boy,” he told them some of the content.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on yanglwx wrote: Thank you, in kindergarten and primary and secondary schools are too need more male teachers had. It is reported that the country’s kindergartens a total of only 2,000 male teachers, which is extremely detrimental to the growth of boys. I think that there is no male preschool and primary school teachers are unqualified.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: Teachers will be hot in the future, teachers will be more willing to engage people, because the teacher performance pay has been cause for concern.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on yanglwx said: Please everyone’s attention, “State Reform and Development Plan and long-term”, the state for the first time made up his mind to universal pre-school education in one to three years, this is a great breakthrough in my blog, just turn Sina quote of the “China Youth Daily” for my interview, I think the pre-school education is mankind’s most important. Revitalization of pre-school education is bound to need a large number of kindergarten teachers, this will be a hot career.
yanglwx on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: “The State long-term reform and development plan for” real reform Zhongxiao You want to comprehensive education.
waiguoertongjy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: At present, universal pre-school education for three years is too difficult.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on shandongzyq said: Yes, the country’s attitude is universal pre-school year, the fight for universal access to three years.
shandongzyq on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: required, particularly in rural pre-school teachers, lack of school too.
waiguoertongjy on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: “universal pre-school year” means kindergarten last year? shandongzyq on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: At present, private kindergartens, transfer station run institutions like the very fire, and the benefits substantial enough to make up for the government investment. Pre-year basic education guaranteed.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on waiguoertongjy said: Yes, one year before going to school. China is a big country, to do this is not easy, said an official in Anhui, a small town North of undocumented 200 kindergarten, shows how people want their children to kindergarten ah. However, investment in Anhui Province 2.8 billion funding for secondary education, while only 120 million into pre-school education. Now, our Government is owed a large pre-school education account.
waiguoertongjy on shandongzyq wrote: now if Public Nursery difficult. Private, if the scale is bigger, the fiercely money.
shandongzyq on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: Kindergarten fees are standard, not to collect fees. There aristocratic kindergartens, 20,000 yuan per semester, a teacher look at two or three kids.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on shandongzyq said: I think the attitude of China’s pre-school education has long been a mistake, the chaos of pre-elementary education major reason for confusion is one of the sources of national quality risks. So, now universal pre-school education for one year is absolutely necessary, I even advocated the study of compulsory education in the previous year, which is of strategic significance to revitalize the Chinese nation.
Sun Yunxiao wrote on shandongzyq said: I said in the blog today, school-based early childhood education but also toxic than melamine.
waiguoertongjy on Sun Yunxiao wrote wrote: Well, Professor of metaphor, those who do not know really Hailehaizi education.
shandongzyq on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: very much agree with this view, the confusion is caused by pre-administration of pre-primary schools is an important factor.
clgljq on Sun Yunxiao wrote that: there is hope to postpone compulsory education to high school stage?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on clgljq said: limited national strength, and now the policy of setting high school education is universal, not included in compulsory education.
waiguoertongjy on Sun Yunxiao wrote wrote: Will the professor’s new book on the web chat you have news?
Sun Yunxiao wrote on waiguoertongjy said: new book on the web chat is being edited, in order to ensure the quality, may be postponed until the second half of publication, but it will published. 500 Books Donated by former friends for as long as you sent contact details (email firstname.lastname@example.org), will receive the book donation.
Sun Yunxiao wrote to all: I am flying tomorrow, Xiamen, China Youth Research Center to participate in the subject of the meeting, devoted to the methods used to cultivate. On the 30th flight of Dongguan, Guangdong Province, to participate in school mental health education seminars, and do presentations. On the 31st flight of Chongqing, the Committee participated in the Chinese Writers Association. I believe there will be some new harvest, in the April 28 chat with the share. I wish you good night!
Sun Yunxiao wrote to the owner: I chat with friends once a month, if you need more, visit my blog and Sina Sina micro-Bo, plus I am concerned if we can have opportunities to communicate at any time. The era of information exchange channel is very smooth. I would like to share with you always.
Sun Yunxiao wrote to the owner, said: I wish you all good night!
I recently played Sina micro-Bo, cool, very trendy. In a word, a picture, wherever you understand me the most fresh. Click the following link to register, and I together and play! http://t.sina.com.cn/reg.php?inviteCode=1197151844