Posted by admin | Posted in For you | Posted on 25-12-2007
Chinese children need to “wet nurse”
ZHU Tie-Chi Qiushi magazine deputy editor
“Wet nurse” who, full-time father. I do not know, “wet nurse” in that began when, but know that in some economically developed western countries, a full-time at home looking after his father had not new. Back in 2007, Spain introduced a “Gender Equality Law,” for which men can apply for a period of 15 days of “maternity leave”, during the Spanish Social Security Bureau is responsible for the 13 days of wages, work unit to pay 2-day pay, wage in accordance with the “leave” before last month’s wage. Not long ago, the Spanish House of Representatives has passed a new proposal to require newborn’s father, from next year, can enjoy a period of four weeks of “paternity leave.”
This is really an interesting and useful topics. Family Research Center, Shanghai Academy of Social Sciences, Shanghai Women’s Federation Ministry of Children and Family released the first national sociology, “the father of empirical research report” shows: in the “spouse’s income sufficient to maintain a family life” under the premise that 13% of men willing to be “full-time father,” they think “nurture a healthy child is more important than earning money.” 70% of the respondents father wants to have “parental leave.” Shanghai is now only three days of childbearing women, their spouses put “child birth care leave.” Central Party School, Centre for Women’s Studies “issued by the public holidays on the care needs of men paid survey” shows: the husband is more willing than his wife at home to take care of newborns, 92.2% of men in favor of “maternity leave is the right man” argument.
According to another survey, 68% of German men are willing to raise children, which accounted for most of the young men, 37% thought that only concerned with the work, whether the child is not a good father. Korea National Statistical Office released figures show men in the past five years, the home, women outside the home increased by 42% to 151,000. A similar situation occurred in Japan, the Japan University Hill Tian Changhong said that this phenomenon 10 years ago was unthinkable.
This interesting phenomenon deserves our study and attention, its significance is far above personal choice.
“Milk dad” child’s personality can be more perfect, more perfect personality, especially for men of education can properly compensate for serious shortages. Known in Chinese children growing up, full of female figure, first mother, then grandmother and grandmother, and then a nanny, at school and most of the face of the female teachers … … I have no prejudice against women, But, after all, the gender composition of human society, under the care of long-term growth in the female, the child’s well-being of not only the means. Many of China is now very sissy boy, poor Chinese men’s soccer can not be bad to the point where, in my opinion, about not unrelated to this.
Be “wet nurse” a male incumbent. Like a child who is not a matter of a woman as a woman with children is not one thing. Some people say that I have never been the mother of the woman is not complete, there are shortcomings, in fact, had a child with no direct male is not complete, but also a shortcoming. And this deficiency, once formed, will never make up. Kids can really become a Maotouxiaohuo children of men, it is a maturing process, is itself a cause. In a particular period of time, the sure money is more important than that.
Be “wet nurse” can improve marital relations. Chinese wives complain about most is that the husband regardless of the child. Euphemistically called “men and women stay home,” “Lord” for a long time, and no men on the outside how much improvement, but also high-sounding way to evade the responsibility for child care. In the dual-career families, the hostess not only “the Lord”, but also the “outside”, a second term, is more difficult than the husband, this is what reason? Is physically superior men should not take on more responsibility?
Of course, the concept of economic and other factors aside, probably not many people opposed to when the “wet nurse”, because nobody does not love their children. The problem is, when the “wet nurse”, that “five dou of rice” to where to go scouring for? This requires a policy and mechanism of protection. Germany in January 2007 promulgated policies and regulations grant to children, to stay at home parent can apply for child grants, amount to 67% of its income, ranging from 300 to 1800 euros. At present, China can not simply copy some way to Germany, but its inner spirit is learning, at least in children might learn from the implementation of breast-feeding.
I agree with one expert saying: full-time father in fact more reasonable than the full-time mother, because women quit to go home once, it means that between career and family to make the final decision, the possibility of almost no return. The male is different from home to see the child, is homely and performance, the children grow up and then go out and work units can not only be understood, or even increase the image points, therefore, relatively less difficult to return to society. Chinese children need to “wet nurse”, “wet nurse” than the “wet nurse” is easier to combine work and family needs, improve related policies if the state “wet nurse” to support, would be a benefit the family, society and future generations very good thing. (2010-1-30 Beiqing Bao)
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